✨You’re doing wedding planning wrong✨
Sayyyy wuuttt?! Yeah… you heard me right.
You may be doing wedding planning wrong…
You’re prioritizing what EVERYONE ELSE wants & not what YOU & YOUR PARTNER want. Now, you may be thinking… “Cristeal, how the HECK am I supposed to do that?!” I got you. Lemme break it down.
Your wedding is about YOU.
It’s not about your mom. Or your aunt. It’s about you & your spouse. Period.
When you care more about catering to the wants & opinions of others, you are investing in their dreams instead of your own. At the end of the day – who is going to longingly look back on your wedding? Who is going to stare at your wedding photos for the next 50 years?
You & your spouse. And probably NOT your Aunt Karen.
Instead of prioritizing the preferences of others, YOU have to remember this day is for you & your partner if you expect others to remember that as well.
Be honest with your family & friends about your intentions for your day & explain to them WHY you want to do things the way you have been dreaming of. I know the fear of conflict is real so here is an example of a way you can say to your fam that you are gonna do things your own way:
“I appreciate your perspective but we have been dreaming of doing ____ this way because ____ & I want this day to be the day that we as a couple want. I love you & appreciate you & want to include you in my day & I hope you can respect our decision”
Remember that YOU👏🏽HAVE👏🏽PERMISSION👏🏽TO👏🏽HAVE👏🏽THE👏🏽WEDDING👏🏽THAT👏🏽YOU👏🏽ACTUALLY👏🏽WANT!👏🏽
One tangible thing that you can do is offer to give your family ownership over one specific task. An example of this would be telling your future mother-in-law that you would love for her to take care of the party favors & ask her to handle it from start to finish. This gives her a job so that she feels included and it takes something off of your plate so it’s a win-win!
Did you need to hear this today?!? 🖐🏼
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